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An experiment to conduct with people familiar to you and an explanation of the Brihadaranyaka Upanishad in which Yajnavalkya says, “It’s not for the sake of the spouse that the spouse is loved, it’s for the sake of the Self that the spouse is loved. It’s not for the sake of the son that the son is loved, it’s for the sake of the Self that the son is loved.” Try the experiment! See what happens.