Life unfolds as it will. “Taking charge” implies that you have some control as to how this unfolding happens. Taking charge requires momentous effort as if trying to divert a river from its natural course. As soon as we look away, the river has resumed its path of least resistance.
Instead, we take responsibility. Taking responsibility does not mean blame or fault. Life and it’s situations will unfold regardless of anyone’s wishes and so we accept, allow and offer no resistance to what is. We remain “able to respond” to these challenges because we are not bound by expectations as to “how things should be”. Where action is necessary, we take action. We are not tied to the outcome and do not own the fruits or consequences of these actions. We simply flow with what is here, now.
Delving deeper we will find that there is no decision to act but deciding happens. When we remain rooted in Self, that (unnamable, indescribable) space, actions flow naturally and in alignment with existence.